http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=44ZFNPFJuyY Matt Stroud at The Verge recently published an extensive article about James Ray and our Kirby. It is not SEEK’s mission to monitor James Ray and follow his every move. Our mission is to educate and empower seekers, and to promote safe practices within the self-help industry. Our mission is to try to prevent another Sedona. Our mission is to protect the people like Kirby, who are motivated to improve their lives and are seeking help with that task. We want seekers to be safe. Since Ray’s release from prison and return to the public, I have detected some sense of people feeling that the victims of Sedona need to move on and get over James Ray. Forgiveness, and all that.So I want to draw a distinction between forgiveness and trust. I can forgive someone, but still not trust him if I have reason to believe he is still dangerous. If for example, you were molested, you’d likely want to see that person on a sex offender’s list, and would never leave your child alone with that person, regardless of whether or not you’d forgiven him. Forgiveness has nothing to do with confidence or trust in the person who wronged you. James Ray appears to be returning to the realm of self-help but doesn’t seem to have learned from Sedona. He refers to the deaths of Kirby, James and Liz as an “accident,” failing to understand (or acknowledge) or take responsibility for the fact that his actions made death inevitable. He is also unwilling to sign the Promise. Our concern over James Ray is not an inability to forgive him. It’s an unwillingness to trust him. We feel he is still a danger if he continues in the business of “helping” people. Therefore, he is still relevant to SEEK Safely, because we fear that any search guided by him will not be a safe one. In the last four years, our family has endured a great amount of frustration as many media outlets and James Ray’s criminal trial glossed over the details of what happened in Sedona and who James Ray is. I know that part of the reason is the complexity of this story. It’s detailed. It’s not easy. But I am happy to say that finally, I feel this story has been given its due. Matt Stroud makes it possible to see how intelligent, driven people could be conned into death by a James Ray. I figured that out years ago when I looked into every detail of what happened to my beautiful sister Kirby. But I understand why many people shake their heads and believe that this would never happen to them. However, research has shown that anyone is susceptible to the methods of control frequently used at self-help events. Don’t shrug off the danger; empower yourself. Please read and share The Death Dealer.