Fooling Myself

What dictates thinking, beliefs and decision making? Is it the circumstances of the moment and ones immediate emotional reaction? Is it past experience and the need to be self-protective? Is it rational considerations based on both fact and experience? Is it thought or emotions or a combination of both? Conscience: The Ultimate Judge

“There are two ways to be fooled. One is to believe what isn’t true; the other is to refuse to believe what is true.” ― Søren Kierkegaard

What is true? Most people would say they are guided by their conscience in determining their personal truth. A true conscience that makes moral decisions is a judgment of reason to measure the ethics of a concrete act. That judgment about good and evil is both taught and experienced. The development of conscience is a life-long task involving careful thought, education in virtuous behavior, and the observation of the consequence of actions. Internal conscience is not determined by emotions. It’s a rational judgement. Currently, we live in a world of “political correctness”, which I think has been misinterpreted to mean that people cannot make judgements about the behavior of other people. I believe that tolerance is to be applauded, respect should be given to every person and that no one has the right to condemn another. However, everyone has to make judgments about behaviors… right vs. wrong, good vs. bad, healthy vs. unhealthy… to guide their own decision making. Perhaps we are getting into a bad habit of ignoring our conscience. Don’t Fool Yourself

To Jerusalem and Back - A Personal Account

“A great deal of intelligence can be invested in ignorance when the need for illusion is deep.” ― Saul BellowTo Jerusalem and Back

Thoughts and decisions may be subjected to deceit or misconception if the emotional need to believe in an idea or a person is overwhelming. Sometimes we allow for a “willful suspension of disbelief” because, despite factual evidence, new information would contradict a very strongly held belief or the desire to believe in another. Sometimes, we allow our emotional needs to supersede our rational conscience. We want something to be true so badly that we ignore the signs pointing the other way. Or maybe we feel the pressure of a group to go along with something despite the warnings of our own conscience. This self-deception can happen in families, churches, and at self-help seminars. When faced with dilemmas of judgement, ask yourself: Are the beliefs I hold and the judgments I make based on emotion or on a basis of personal standards and embraced values? Can I allow challenges to my own thinking or allegiances? Can I embrace introspection and careful consideration to protect against misinterpretation? Am I fooling myself or allowing myself to be fooled?

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